For several weeks, I’ve been ranting to my friends and family the importance of dressing well for New Year’s Eve. Some of them think I’m being over-the-top, while others happen to agree. This year I’ve managed to not only find myself something to wear early (surprisingly), but I’ve also been able to help others put together NYE ‘fits (yes!). It’s been a lot of fun.
Make no mistake, there’s no need to go overboard with shopping – going into debt, spending money you should be saving, or even over-thinking it. You can easily mix and match pieces together in your own closet to create a fresh, fun and creative look. My challenge to you is to put forth effort into having a fashionably grand experience at your event. And even if you’re staying home, put on your flyest pair of PJs and have yourself a good ole’ time! Remember, class and elegance is key.
Here’s are five reasons why I believe we all (men and women) should look good for NYE:
1) It’s just plain fun to dress up.
2) You end the year on a good note and you start the new one off right. Who can argue with that!?
3) You never know who you will meet and the connections you can make both professionally and socially.
4) You’re more likely to enjoy the event.
5) When you look good, you feel good.
Happy Dressing and Happy New Year!
Why did I cry? Not because I was sad or scared. I cried because I was happy. Blessed. I felt content and thankful. Grateful for the tough times I survived. Appreciative for having amazing people in my life. Excited for what’s to come. The tears flowed as my smile widened. I’ll never forget that moment.
Last week, I asked several of my 30-something/40-something friends if they had any advice for me. Here’s what they offered:
1) Live all of your dreams.
2) Have dinner with your real friends – often.
3) Be true to yourself.
4) Don’t concern yourself with what people think of you or your decisions. Do you.
5) Never compare yourself to others. Have your own path.
6) Don’t be afraid. Even if you fail.
7) Try new things. And travel.
8) Be aggressive!
9) Be the potential. It’s no longer about who/what you’re “going” to be. It’s about being that person right now.
10) Keep your 40+ and retirement in mind. Save, save, save!
Any more feedback/advice from my 30+ friends? Please feel free to share! xoxo.
“A woman is the age she deserves.” Coco Chanel
Well, here it is! 30 is almost here. I’m excited. I’m nervous. I’m anxious. I’m hopeful. I’m ready.
My twenties were good to me. I’ve learned a great deal and had so much fun along the way. Here are a few of my reflections. Enjoy!
1) I couldn’t have made it this far without my heavenly Father.
2) I need my Mother.
3) How to have a blast being a single woman.
4) Giving back to the community makes life worthwhile.
5) The journey to self-love is ongoing.
6) To listen attentively to older, wiser women.
7) Never, ever to leave candles unattended.
8) If he doesn’t pursue you, he don’t want you.
9) My sisters keep me sane.
10) You’re doing yourself a favor by saying No.
11) You can have braces however many times you need.
12) My girlfriends are EVERYTHING! and some cousins are more like sisters (whaddup Sturdi!).
13) Confidentiality is also everything.
14) How important it is to save money.
15) Never to text and drive.
16) Never to drink and drive. Seriously.
17) You should always be in the middle of a good book.
18) Good, supportive bras are crazy expensive!
19) My relationship with my Dad is unmatchable.
20) People-pleasing gets you nowhere, fast.
21) Every day is the PERFECT day to dress fly.
22) Quality, honest male friends are a gift.
23) It’s fulfilling to dine alone.
24) Credit scores are important.
25) Never to avoid confrontation.
26) It’s toxic to compare yourself to others.
27) A romantic relationship will only add to me because I’m already complete.
28) Real women can apologize first.
29) I am my own best friend, but you sure do an even better job, Alexis E. Brevard!
30) Traveling is incredible.
My thirties will be an amazing journey!
“Toe-drag”, “toe overhang”, “toe spill”, “skrimping”, “too small sandals”, however you choose to reference toes that hang over sandals, is your decision. But we’ve got to put a stop to this plaguing epidemic. It needs to be addressed. My friends (hey @E_Nikki, @MissLaydeee and @MyRoscoe10!!), asked me to write about it.. and they have every right to be concerned. It’s a new season and ladies all over are taking advantage of the breathtakingly sexy open toe shoe. And why shouldn’t we?! They’re daring, sexy, funky and feminine; and for all you exercise freaks, they make the calves looks like a million bucks! Owwww!
“She ain’t got no friends,” is what my sister always says when we see an extra busted chick walking around in too small clothes, excess makeup, extremely ridiculous hair or showing hefty amounts of cleavage whether it’s boobs or booty. If she had real friends, they’d tell her bout herself.
And the same goes for toe-drag. So you’ve taken time out of your busy schedule to read Cardigans and Pearls.. which instantly makes me care DEEPLY for you (thanks so much for reading :)!!), and I have vowed to always tell my friends the truth even when it hurts.
Here it goes: if you can feel the tip of your sandal with your toes, your sandals are too small. If you’re toes touch the ground at any point, your sandals are too small. If your toes ooze out of your sandals looking like a pack of Jimmy Dean sausages (see picture above), your sandals are way too small. If your toes spill out onto the sides or bust out in between the straps (eww), yep, you’ve guessed it.. they’re too small.
I’m not trying to judge or condemn. I’m here to help! 🙂 If you look up and your feet resemble any of these “Oh No She Didn’t” pictures, do yourself a favor: trash/give away the shoes and go one size up. I can’t let you go out like that.. I care too much. You can even donate to Salvation Army. If it’s too hard to part, allow your girlfriend to come to your place and get them. By any means necessary. Be careful if you have wide feet too. That can produce terrible side spillage. It’s not worth the embarrassment of seeing a twitpic of your big toe spilling out of your shoe all over Twitter. And even if it’s just one toe hanging, it’s still not okay. It may be a great idea to purchase foot pads which help prevent your feet from sliding because that’s often inevitable. They have those at every shoe store and they’re pretty affordable. Also, try taking an honest friend with you while shoe shopping. Someone who you KNOW will be brutally honest.
And let’s not forget heel drag! Same rules apply. Happy Spring and Summer to all of my Shoe Lovers!
…especially with those yucky yellow armpit stains:
•skip bleach since it doesn’t help with ‘pit stains
•soak the stained area in hydrogen peroxide (you can dilute it in water)
•pop an aspirin or two in the washing machine (wait until its full of water)
•soak the shirt in a solution of vinegar and water (1 tablespoon of vinegar to 1 cup of water)